A Man's Potential...

I read somewhere that women often jump into a relationship, or pursue a man based on his potential. His potential to be "THE ONE". Often times, when we even get together in our girl talk groups and we talk about whatever guy we are currently seeing, one most likely will say that, "He is a good man and he has great POTENTIAL, if he would just get his act together." It's a good thing for those that can see a person's potential, but how much should it influence your opinion on a whether he is relationship worthy? When we sit down and think of want we want in a man, do we really diminish the importance of the qualities we find important in a man based on his potential?

Personally I feel as a women it is foolish to pursue a man until his potential is fulfilled. You can see his potential, but don't let that stop you from seeing who he is now. I know somebody's momma told them to "Never count their chickens before the egg hatches", this is a wise saying to apply to men and relationships, because while you are building your dreams of a future with him on his POTENTIAL, what happens if he never reaches it? What happens if his potential is never fulfilled?... Too much? Well let's try another example.


You want your relationship to be healthy, prosperous, and good for you, right? Then look at a man for how good he is for you. If you think of a men as fruit, you wouldn't want him until he was ripe, because you know if picked too soon, it won't taste right and it would have little nourishment to offer you. Therefore you know that an unripe fruit is useless and no good for you. That's how a relationship based on a man's potential would be, NO GOOD FOR YOU.

I know some women might think, "I can help him REALIZE HIS POTENTIAL," as if they can mold this man into the man of their DREAMS. That's a BIG MISTAKE. The very most important reason why is, while you're focusing on him and his potential, what happens to yours? Where are your dreams for yourself, your career, for the wonderful woman of GOD that you dream of yourself becoming someday? A woman that exemplifies everything you think a woman should in today's society?

Unknowingly you have laid your potential aside, saying that it's more important to have a man with POTENTIAL than it is to fulfill your own. As if some ARCHAIC natural instinct inside us, tells us that as women all we need is a Man to survive. And secondly, what if you help this man to fulfill his potential, he exemplifies everything you want in a man, and he realizes that HE DOESN'T WANT YOU or that he has OUTGROWN you? Because while you were NURTURING him and helping him grow, you have remained STAGNANT, because you have not grown yourself. So ladies, I encourage you to remain strong, and not build your castles in the sky based on a man's potential. I won't tell you to wait for him to fulfill his potential. I say live your life. Focus on you. And though you may see a man's potential, if you take a look at him for as is now and you find him lacking, then don't pursue a relationship with him. If you want to wait then that's your choice. But remember unless he reaches his potential and it's fulfilled, a man's potential will remain just that.... A Man's Potential.