I had to think about this for such a long time before actually sitting here and writing this. I would be wrong if I didn’t say there was a little fear of the public reaction to it, but I have some thoughts that I really need to share and also get some real feed back on. This is the internet so I am sure there will be ignorance and hate that will be started because of this, but this is obviously something that needs to be thought about. In recent years, there has been a lot of debate on legalizing gay marriage. In more recent news the CEO of a well known Christian restaurant chain was asked his opinion on Gay marriage. The public’s reaction to the obvious answer has raised more questions to a national dilemma. Where is this leading our society? Could religious persecution be next?
I have read the reasons behind the Gay Rights movement. As an American citizen I do understand the appearance of their rights being infringed upon. I read about wills being discarded, custody being taken away, the health insurance and many others. But reading the poignant stories, I ask how are these situations unique to the Gay community?
Everyone knows about the dispute between Anna Nicole Smith and her step son, over her husband’s will. The custody battles over a deceased partner’s kids with their family is nothing new either. No matter who you are, most people feel more comfortable when their blood is being raised by blood (we have all heard the scary step-parent stories). There have even been times when family has interceded to take custody away from biological parents when the parents are seen as unfit. So on these stories, I don’t see anything particularly unique. It’s just one American using his right to question another American’s right to an estate or custody of their sister’s kids. On the health insurance thing, now that is something that is unique. I don’t understand why you can’t add whoever you want to an insurance you are PAYING for. As a consumer in a Capitalist society, this really doesn’t make sense, even without bringing gay rights into it.
Now let’s look at the opposition. What are all these bible thumpers against? As a Christian myself, I have been very confused on the gay rights issue. I do not like the unfairness that homosexual people have to face, but I also do not agree with the lifestyle or the tactics that are being used either. I feel like this is a pill that I am being forced to swallow. Why is it ok for people to flaunt in my face something that I think is wrong, but I am not able to say that I think it is wrong?
The only things I can’t have an opinion about are the things that I don’t know about. My mom raised me a certain way. I know that if I do something that she does not agree with, once she knows about it, she will tell me her opinion. That also means that things that I don’t want her opinion on, I keep from her knowledge. It’s the same for almost every one I know and have met. As soon as they see something they don’t agree with, you know it. Smoking is wrong. Drinking is wrong. Sex before marriage is wrong. Wearing fur is wrong. Homosexuality is wrong. Abortion is wrong.
However I am starting to see a train of thought that is tainting everyone’s actions and reactions. “Drinking is wrong. John drinks. Therefore John is bad.” The thought that people are judging them when they are told something they are doing is wrong, makes it obvious that if you don’t want to seem judgmental, keep your opinion to yourself. Honestly speaking, for the most part, that is true. No one is perfect but we like to weigh our wrongness against the wrongness of others. It makes us feel better about ourselves. I may be “this”, but at least I’m not “that”. Unfortunately, it’s the imperfect “Christians” that are the loudest to point out someone else’s wrong. The saddest thing is that they are less forgiving of gay people than they are of murderers, thieves, prostitutes and gangsters.
I have to admit that before I read on the Gay rights movement, I was taking a rigid standpoint. I saw only the fact that all the flamboyant people want to force me to accept something as right that my religious beliefs say is wrong. The tactics of the Gay rights movement had me on the defensive. Like I had to not only protect my beliefs, I had to assert them. In spite of the fact that I have associates and people that I highly respect that are gay, I was rigid about it. Never had a discussion with them about it because I know we would disagree and I didn’t want heated words to ruin those relationships. Fortunately these people were discreet about it. I know they are gay and they know I know. It’s not to the point of cross dressing. It never becomes a point of discussion, because their discretion makes it obvious that I am not privy to their personal business. I respect them more for that because I feel their respect for me.
However not everyone is as respectful of other’s decisions and opinions. So with the Gay Right movement in full swing, does anyone else feel that America is only a few Radicals away from religious persecution?